(Edited as of July 27, 2018 because of some great comments. And also to tone down the peppy-ness levels.)
I am not a fan of small talk. It’s tiring. Here’s my definition of small talk: words that are exchanged between people who would rather be somewhere else. Maybe one day, when I don’t feel the need to fend of the encroaching awkwardness anymore, small talk won’t be a problem. Until then, I’ll be trying to get better at it.
Anyways, on the other hand, I absolutely love having conversations about more important stuff, like whether or not cockroaches are actually aliens that are pretending to be bugs in order to go unnoticed until they’re ready to conquer the world. Unfortunately, those types of discussions are like reindeer, and small talk is like horses. Reindeer are so much cooler, but you never get to see them in real life except on Christmas Eve and television. Why that is, I have no idea. However, since two days ago, I have embarked on a mission to make reindeer more common. In other words, I am trying to help deeper conversations to combust on a regular basis.
Here’s my genius and very simple plan:
1. Find a friend who is willing to participate and won’t think that this whole thing is dumb/weird/all of the above. Or, you could just force them to do it. That’s always an option. This step is the most important one- not that there’s much competition. Choosing the wrong person will ruin everything. EVERYTHING, I tell you. (At least I think so. I don’t want to find out whether or not it’s true for sure.)
2. Text them a slightly mind bending question each day.
3. Be amazed as you watch a beautiful conversation unfold before your very eyes.
To help you with step number two, here are some questions that I’ve gathered from Pinterest to start you off.
-Have you ever planned out a text message in your brain before typing it? Or, do you revise texts before sending them?
-What is more difficult for you: looking into someone’s eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someone’s eyes when they are telling you how they feel?
-Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?
-You can have one of the following two things: love and trust. Which do you choose and why?
-Think of the last time you were angry. What made you so upset?
-If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
-What’s something you wish people knew about you without having to tell them?
-What are three qualities we have in common?
-How do you react to stress?
-Would you like to be famous? In what way?
Let’s do a mini poll! Are you an introvert or an extrovert? As I said, I am definitely an introvert. Any tips on small talk? One I heard on a podcast was the 5 second rule, which is when you engage in conversation in the first five seconds you get in an elevator before the silence becomes too awkward to break. I think this is great when there’s one or two other people in the elevator, but not when it’s packed. I’M SO CURIOUS: what would your answer be to any of the questions on the list??